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Worried that what I say to my psychologist could get me in trouble...
by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 10:42 am
I probably sound like a right psycho here but im gonna risk it cos i need help!!!
Okay so i finally sorted out therapy.
I was told nothing leaves the room unless the person/others are in danger or if there's law related stuff involved.
But things have happened me that i believe have affected my life:
Apparently this counts as sexual abuse. I know they notify people of statutory rape and probably actual rape, to avoid others being in danger. (he's been with his gf years now - so doubt anyones in danger.).. But i dont know if they'd tell the guards or anyone about this...
I also have thoughts about killing people... brutally, on a regular basis. Though these are people who hurt be by insulting or bullying me. I've visualised pushing my housemate down the stairs while she was giving out to me. I'm terrified that telling the psychologist this, could result in me being put into a mental hospital. It seems likely. Does anyone know anything about these things in Ireland?
All i fucking want is help, not the drama of having to deal with him again or having to ring my mother and surprise her by telling her that her daughters in a mental hospital!
I thought you could tell a therapist anything - but im bloody scared now!!
Okay so i finally sorted out therapy.
I was told nothing leaves the room unless the person/others are in danger or if there's law related stuff involved.
But things have happened me that i believe have affected my life:
Apparently this counts as sexual abuse. I know they notify people of statutory rape and probably actual rape, to avoid others being in danger. (he's been with his gf years now - so doubt anyones in danger.).. But i dont know if they'd tell the guards or anyone about this...
Was with a guy when I was really young.
We were both 16 i think...
I was mad about him (you know the way when you're that age its so easy to think you're in love).
He wasn't completely terrible - like he did treat me fairly well (though thats only in comparison to other guys ive been with so doesnt say much),
but for the whole year and a half we were together, he'd try to force me to do things i REALLY wasnt comfortable with or ready to do.
He'd argue with me for hours when i refused, til i was in tears, and made sure he got his own way.
He'd also send his friends out of the room for a minute while he did stuff/got me to do stuff.
I always begged him not to tell anyone cos i was ashamed and felt really dirty, as if i was in the wrong.
But it was obvious that sending them out of the room was his subtle way of bragging to them.
Actually he took every opportunity to make people aware of the fact we had done stuff, (our ****ing parents included - arsehole!) and made out as if i loved it - when it was actually destroying me.
He once took out his little sisters raincoat and used it as contraception when he forced himself on me. I wasn't long pushing him off - that was just too far....sick like!
He didnt care about how i felt as long as he got what he wanted.
I remember i was going on a school trip for 5 days, and he made me promise to lose my virginity to him when i got back.
I left him as soon as i got back btw.
A few years later i was in a bar with an girl, who was an ex of his, who was my friend at the time. She told me that while he was having sex with her he said "Why didn't i lose my virginity to you instead of Charlene?"
That was the last straw, i darted out of the bar, picked up a rock and made my way towards his house. It was miles away but i didnt care - i was gonna smash his window!
My friend and her boyfriend actually had to grab me and throw me into a cab.
He lied to everyone, about something that big, even though i blatantly refused to give in throughout our whole relationship.
I also have thoughts about killing people... brutally, on a regular basis. Though these are people who hurt be by insulting or bullying me. I've visualised pushing my housemate down the stairs while she was giving out to me. I'm terrified that telling the psychologist this, could result in me being put into a mental hospital. It seems likely. Does anyone know anything about these things in Ireland?
All i fucking want is help, not the drama of having to deal with him again or having to ring my mother and surprise her by telling her that her daughters in a mental hospital!
I thought you could tell a therapist anything - but im bloody scared now!!
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Re: Worried that what I say to my psychologist could get me in trouble...
by Dub16 Sat Apr 03, 2010 11:59 am
Nothing will come of your talk with the therapist. Nobody will get in trouble and life will carry on as normal.
BUT, having read that piece in the quote, well thats not fcuking normal nor acceptable. FFS, what sort of a sick arse-hole would do that???
Sorry Char. Its only when i read stuff like that, that I begin to realise half the crap that some people have to go through. You could have pressed charges and had that scumbag done for.
BUT, having read that piece in the quote, well thats not fcuking normal nor acceptable. FFS, what sort of a sick arse-hole would do that???
Sorry Char. Its only when i read stuff like that, that I begin to realise half the crap that some people have to go through. You could have pressed charges and had that scumbag done for.
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:09 pm
Hopefully no drama will arise...
Its the last thing i need.
Yeah I COULD have pressed charges,
but I'd probably have had my life made hell (well, moreso than it was...)..
Then theres the fact my uncle married his adoptive cousin and the fact other people wouldve been too upset...
It wouldve been too much. Terrified of tellin the psychologist incase they try contact him.
Its the last thing i need.
Yeah I COULD have pressed charges,
but I'd probably have had my life made hell (well, moreso than it was...)..
Then theres the fact my uncle married his adoptive cousin and the fact other people wouldve been too upset...
It wouldve been too much. Terrified of tellin the psychologist incase they try contact him.
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by Dub16 Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:15 pm
the psychologist wont do anything of the sort. It would have to be an extraordinary case for them to go outside the room and bring police into the equation.
You need to worry less about stuff like that and focus on getting better.
Just tell the psychologist the truth. Dont leave stuff out. The last thing that they want is more paper-work on their desks, they wont go near the cops unless you ask them to.
You need to worry less about stuff like that and focus on getting better.
Just tell the psychologist the truth. Dont leave stuff out. The last thing that they want is more paper-work on their desks, they wont go near the cops unless you ask them to.
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:18 pm
I s'ppose yeah - terrified tho... and the whole wanting to kill people...
Thats how my friend ended up in a psych unit!
Thats how my friend ended up in a psych unit!
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by Dub16 Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:33 pm
Irrational thoughts and depression.
Go hand in hand like tennis rackets and tennis balls.
relax. you'll be ok hun!
Go hand in hand like tennis rackets and tennis balls.
relax. you'll be ok hun!
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:39 pm
OMG THATS FECKIN' WEIRD!!!! :O
I just mentioned a tennis ball in the post i wrote seconds before reading this..
But lets hope ill be okay!!!
I just mentioned a tennis ball in the post i wrote seconds before reading this..
But lets hope ill be okay!!!
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by Dub16 Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:40 pm
haha, bleddy tennis balls, Is wimbledon starting early that its on our minds or somethin? 
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:41 pm
Not that i know of anyway!!
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by Dub16 Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:44 pm
Right, I'll serve, if any of yee are up fer doubles! PS, wheres eejit-face? We've a few online now, chatroom would have been good for the craic
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:46 pm
Im crap at tennis!!! :-/
D'nno where eejit-face is actually - not like him ta be offline for so long!
D'nno where eejit-face is actually - not like him ta be offline for so long!
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by Ciaran Sat Apr 03, 2010 12:54 pm
Jesus,I've been having the same thoughts over the past few days,I've done a good bit of violent stuff in the past that I feel ridiculously guilty about and want to bring it up during counselling next week but am not sure what my therapist will do with it.
It's nothing sexual or anything like that but its pretty bad all the same and I know people that have gone to jail for waay less like,also worried that even if he doesnt go to the gards with it,that he'll think I'm complete and utter scumbag and joke of a human being.
And btw Charlene,sorry to read about what you went through,hopefully the prick who put you through it will be struck down by some horrifically,painful incurable disease.
It's nothing sexual or anything like that but its pretty bad all the same and I know people that have gone to jail for waay less like,also worried that even if he doesnt go to the gards with it,that he'll think I'm complete and utter scumbag and joke of a human being.
And btw Charlene,sorry to read about what you went through,hopefully the prick who put you through it will be struck down by some horrifically,painful incurable disease.
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 1:04 pm
Ciaran - you're officially my twin!
The past few weeks have been pretty much the exact same for both of us.
I'm not sure what to do.
I'm gonna just tell 'em I'm there to change and thats it!
Would you think you're a threat to anyone at the mo'?
I'm scared they'll think i am but i know im just as danerous as every other person - just over stupider things!
Doctors arent supposed to judge you - and if they are, thats bad practice - theyre supposed to listen.
Hopefully that guy gets whats coming to him - I've been hoping people would realise what he's really like for the last 7 or so years!!
If they want to contact him though, I'm faking my own death!
The past few weeks have been pretty much the exact same for both of us.
I'm not sure what to do.
I'm gonna just tell 'em I'm there to change and thats it!
Would you think you're a threat to anyone at the mo'?
I'm scared they'll think i am but i know im just as danerous as every other person - just over stupider things!
Doctors arent supposed to judge you - and if they are, thats bad practice - theyre supposed to listen.
Hopefully that guy gets whats coming to him - I've been hoping people would realise what he's really like for the last 7 or so years!!
If they want to contact him though, I'm faking my own death!
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by Ciaran Sat Apr 03, 2010 1:52 pm
Haha yeah we're therapy buddies!
Well,I dont think I'm a threat to anyone anymore,those days are over like,and I know doc's arent supposed to judge you,but you never know how somebody new will perceive what you are sayin to them,even if they are trained psychologists,but then again that could be just another irrational fear of mine.
I'd doubt that your therapist will try to contact that dickhead against you're wishes,but if he does and he gives ya any trouble at all,I can mobilise a lot of dodgy lads from clondalkin who'd only be too happy to teach him a lesson!
Well,I dont think I'm a threat to anyone anymore,those days are over like,and I know doc's arent supposed to judge you,but you never know how somebody new will perceive what you are sayin to them,even if they are trained psychologists,but then again that could be just another irrational fear of mine.
I'd doubt that your therapist will try to contact that dickhead against you're wishes,but if he does and he gives ya any trouble at all,I can mobilise a lot of dodgy lads from clondalkin who'd only be too happy to teach him a lesson!
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Sat Apr 03, 2010 2:10 pm
Therapy buddies eh?
How funny would it be if we got into the same Mater group?!
I completely get what you're saying.
Like you can say one thing but they'll think you mean something else!
Thats what i dread most actually.
Then again - maybe we're both bein' irrational!
Im gonna beg the psychologist not to contact him - the dude ruined my life - thats how the depression started when i was 16!
But thanks- ill keep you in mind if they do involve him!
What day you starting therapy?
How funny would it be if we got into the same Mater group?!
I completely get what you're saying.
Like you can say one thing but they'll think you mean something else!
Thats what i dread most actually.
Then again - maybe we're both bein' irrational!
Im gonna beg the psychologist not to contact him - the dude ruined my life - thats how the depression started when i was 16!
But thanks- ill keep you in mind if they do involve him!
What day you starting therapy?
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by Ciaran Sun Apr 04, 2010 2:16 pm
Jaysus,it would be pretty mad if we both got into the same Mater thingy,would be kinda cool to semi know somebody in the group tho!
I've to go see my new therapist on Wednesday for the very first time,terribly nervous about it and really hoping that it goes well and that he's sound,and not some 85 year old stuffy shrink dude!
I've to go see my new therapist on Wednesday for the very first time,terribly nervous about it and really hoping that it goes well and that he's sound,and not some 85 year old stuffy shrink dude!
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by Guest Tue Apr 06, 2010 4:29 am
Nothing leaves the room. I think the only time a psychotherapist will get outside help is if s/he feels that you're in serious danger of committing suicide or killing someone, and I think it would be with your agreement anyway. Most people (I think) have felt like killing someone, but few act on it. Fantasizing about doing it is a long way from actually doing it (even though it might not feel like it at the time). I've told countless therapists things that could have sent a lot of people to jail for a long time. So I don't believe that law related stuff can leave the room. Actually I was terrified to see a therapist for that reason until I was told by a lawyer that that just doesn't happen. They need your consent if it's to leave the room. Criminals go to therapists, criminal go to lawyers, doctors, priests, etc. Confidentiality is confidentiality.
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by x_No_Oil_Painting_x Wed Apr 07, 2010 4:14 am
Ah hope all goes well for ya Ciaran!
Let me know how ya got on.
(email me cos this site wont work on me phone)
I still havent heard back from the place im goin to.
Itll be two weeks til i do!
Ah thanks catherine - kinda have piece of mind now!
Let me know how ya got on.
(email me cos this site wont work on me phone)
I still havent heard back from the place im goin to.
Itll be two weeks til i do!
Ah thanks catherine - kinda have piece of mind now!
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